Wedding Guest: African Print

So, yesterday my mum just sprung news that we have to attend a wedding that we got invited to, and that she forgot to tell us earlier. I literally had very few minutes to get ready but thank God I had this dress I had made some time back, that I thought was perfect for the occasion. I almost forgot to take pictures for the blog-I’m still a rookie at modest blogging hey, but anyway, here we are!

I bought this cloth from a friend at a very great price and had the tailor do his magic.

Little tip: when it comes to tailor made clothes, google as much as you can! You can have the neck from one picture, the sleeves from another picture, etc- till you get what you really want. Get inspired and steal styles as much as you can (heck, you can even start stealing from this one lol!). And when you do, be sure to show the tailor what it is exactly you’re expecting from them, instead of just explaining and expecting them to imagine what you’re going for. I feel like seeing an actual picture is better. And for me, I show him a gazillion pictures so he understands, and the results are always what I was dreaming of.

FYI: I love pockets so much!

Another little secret with long dresses like these, if you want a ball gown look, don’t forget to put a net inside for that ‘poofy’ look.

Headband: handmade gift from my little sister

I’m so in love with flower headbands though. How cute are they?

 

Clutch bag: graduation gift from the family. Shoes: Pep (Team Flat Shoes, where you at?)

 

Belt: thrifted

As you can see, I chose a cloth that had many colours so it wouldn’t give me a headache (colour is so important, read my previous post about colour here) and I love that African prints have all these lovely colours and patterns. I could go on and on about my love for African print, but I don’t want to bore you (not today at least).

Get searching for African Print/Ankara/modest dress designs- Pinterest and Instagram have plenty of styles-you’ll have plenty to choose from!

Happy falling-in-love-with-African-Print!

 

Witnesses

When I was young, about 7 or 8, there about, my brother and I followed my cousin Richard to wherever he was going (I don’t even remember) because I wanted to walk somewhere. We were walking down the Zomba Mental Hospital road, and I happened to cross the road, and a bicycle ran into me.
I still remember that I was wearing a red skirt, and it tore from my hip down during the whole ordeal. I was bleeding on my knee, and crying on top of my lungs, “chonde asakandibaye!!!” (“Please don’t let them give me an injection!!!“) as we made our way to the hospital (yes, I’ve always been afraid of needles). When the accident happened, so many people gathered in so little time. I remember there was ootcha chips (a man that sold chips/fries) nearby, they ditched their chiwaya (chips/fries), and came to the scene. So many other people came and surrounded us. Some of the men grabbed the cyclist by the shirt, and shouted at him. They wanted justice to be served. They were so angry! The young man kept apologizing, and he was frightened. He kept saying, “I didn’t see her approaching” but the people wouldn’t have it. He followed us to the hospital and was by my side the whole time. He was genuinely concerned. To be honest, all I wanted was to get the blood off of me and go home. He gave me MK100 (a lot of money back then), and my cousin told him he can go, and that it was an accident and that these things happen.

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Today was a happy day for us. My cousin Hope, who had been admitted for about 5 days, was finally being discharged. After the long process of receiving medication and getting a medical report, we were finally happy to be going home. I was driving, my aunt was in the front seat, my mum and Hope sat in the passenger seat.
As I was driving into the main road from Zomba Central Hospital, I didn’t see a cyclist approaching, and I froze as he came crashing on the drivers door. He had blood on his mouth. I quickly hit the hazard lights. Somebody helped him up, and I reversed, away from the main road. I was in shock. I felt my legs shake.
Then all of a sudden, loads of people surrounded the car. They said, “you must help him.” Another said, “you can’t just drive away, he’s hurt.” I tried to get back inside the gate, but there were people behind, and the gate was too close behind. I thought, “let me drive forward a bit so I can reverse properly, get back inside and meet the cyclist.”
Big mistake.
All the witnesses thought me driving forward meant I was driving away and running away from picking up the pieces of the accident. They screamed. They shouted. Some people hit the car. I tried to explain, “no, I just want to get back inside the gate, I’m not driving away. I can’t reverse without driving forward.”
They wouldn’t have it. “Akuthawa!!” (“She’s running away!!”) somebody shouted.
Someone came and tried to grab the keys from the ignition. I grabbed them first. Then there was commotion. All those witnesses suddenly became a mob, ready to fight me so I could face justice. My aunt, my mum, and Hope, all tried to explain that we weren’t running away. Some lady said, “umadziwa kupweteka Kwa kubeleka iwe?? Ndi moyotu umenewo!” (“do you know the pain of childbirth? This is someone’s life!”). Someone else, “police case imeneyi!” (“this is a police case!”). Another person said, “akufuna athawe chifukwa alibe license. Si mwana ameneyu?” (“She wants to run away because she doesn’t have a driver’s license. Isn’t she underage?”). Just so we are clear, I have a license. I renewed it two days ago. I’ve been a driver for over 5 years.
Unfortunately, my window was rolled down. People came and were trying to grab me, some took a hold of the seat belt, and a lot of hands were fighting with me, trying to get ahold of the keys so ‘I wouldn’t run away’. It was chaotic.
Then I saw my mum trying to fight off the people who were trying to drag me out of the car. I don’t even know what time she got out to stand beside my door. My aunt was outside on one corner, trying to explain to angry people that we weren’t going anywhere. Hope was on another corner, saying I don’t know what, with so much energy, you wouldn’t believe it was the same patient that had just been discharged lol. Thinking about it now, it’s making me laugh. But it was very scary at the moment.
Eventually, mum managed to get into the drivers seat, and she told me to move to the other seat. I literally hopped to the other seat because if I went out, God knows I would have been on the news, “Mob Justice: Girl Burnt Alive at ZCH” lol, OK maybe that’s too far, but I’m sure I would have been beaten up. Then mum drove back inside the gate, where she parked on the main car park as we went in search of the cyclist.

While we waited for the doctor, people still came to check the injured man. A lady followed us everywhere (we actually thought they were related, but she said she was just there, following us). Three men from the gate hung around. They said the bicycle was so broken and the man was injured and that he could be bleeding internally. They made everything worse. Mum said, “Fai, zimachitika. Usadandaule.” (“Fai, it happens. Don’t worry.”)

I recognised one of the men who followed us, he was in a blue golf shirt. He was one of the people that wanted to grab the keys from the ignition. Him and two other men went behind a building and talked for some minutes. When they came back, man in blue said to my mother, “tikambilane” (“let’s discuss”). I followed them. Blue shirt had the audacity to tell us that “ineyo ndiimilila ngati mbale wake wa wanjingayu kuti ku police zikayende bwino chifukwa nde zikakuvutanitu.” (“let me pretend to be a relative to the cyclist so it goes well at the police station because it will be too difficult for you”). Like, are you serious? You want to make money out of this incident?? We said NO. We will sort it out ourselves. Thank God mum called dad, and he was there as these three men tried to give us their dubious plan. Dad said he would sort everything out, and that we should go home. I apologized to the cyclist (I learnt that his name is Yohane, 27 years old. He came to buy goods for his shop and that he had no relative nearby and knew no phone number we could call). He said he wasn’t hurt, just his lips were bleeding. I felt so relieved, although a huge part of me felt terrible. I told him that I was going home, but my parents would be there with him. He said that was ok.

People pointed at me as I walked to the car. I was still coming to terms with what had just happened. I couldn’t believe THAT just happened to us. I wanted to cry, but I told myself, “not now”. I went to see the bicycle, it was fine. The goods he bought were OK too. I couldn’t believe how people exaggerated everything. Then something told me, this has happened before. Only I was the injured one then, when I was young. But they also almost beat up the cyclist. This time, I was on the other end, being accused. And these were all ‘concerned witnesses.’ I will never forget that I was wearing a blue skirt today.

Sun Fun and Colours

Hi loves! I stepped out again and decided it was a maxi dress kind of day. It’s so sunny this side at the moment, and what better way to enjoy the day than with colours and some denim?

 

The dress is a spaghetti strap maxi dress. Ugh, I hate the fact that most maxi dresses require covering at the top (why??? )…buuuut then you get to play around with how to cover yourself anyway, so I guess that’s the upside.

Dress: Thrifted

When I bought the dress, it was actually too long; it was sweeping the streets so I decided to give it a little trim. I loved the colours and paisley patterns.

 

Denim shirt: Also thrifted.

The denim shirt is basically an oversize shirt that I decided to tie a knot and roll the sleeves. Honestly, I just wing it most days lol. I have a couple of these and they are sooo handy, especially with these maxi dresses. Don’t you just love how easy denim is to wear? It just fits almost anywhere!

Shoes: Pep

Something that I am mindful of when shopping is colour. I prefer buying a dress or skirt with a lot of colours so I don’t have difficulties matching it and I can use different colours every other time. For example, that dress could go with a blue, purple, pink or an orange shoe. By the way, I loooove mixing and matching. Same with shoes… try not to have shoes of just one or two colours. The more colours you have, the easier it is to mix and match.

Have fun this summer! Don’t forget to add colour to your life too! xxxx

Oh, and shout out to my baby sis, Grace, who was in charge of the photography. Thanks for always making time with you fun! x

The Shortest Verse in the Bible

My Sunday afternoons are usually reserved for naps. There’s something about Sunday afternoons that just demands being indoors, in your comfort zone. Unfortunately, I couldn’t seem to sleep today. To make it worse, my sister was in the room and it’s not easy to shut up when we have a thousand stories to share with each other. But soon, she had to leave for school, and I was left alone.

After about an hour, for some reason, my whole mood just changed suddenly. I just started to feel so low. There isn’t an incident that I can confidently point out to say, “this is why I am feeling crappy about myself, my future and just my life in general.” Have you ever felt that way? When you just start to feel sooooo looooow. It feels like the world is happening, and you have been left alone in this little ditch you can’t seem to get yourself out of. It’s even worse when it’s in the morning and you just feel like assuming the foetal position, staying under covers and sobbing the day away. Why? Sometimes you don’t even know. I’ve felt this way so many times. And I. HATE. IT. It seems to go on forever!

I tried everything I could to cheer myself up and dig my way out of this ditch I found myself in. I tried to play a game – I kept losing. I tried to nap again – my mind was racing. I tried to read – I couldn’t concentrate. I still felt so low. Then I decided, let me try to pray. I don’t think I’ve ever offered a disorganised prayer like today. It was jumbled, and half way through, I burst into tears. I was feeling so embarrassed that I am feeling so down, and I can’t even tell why I feel that way. I said, “Lord, I’m so sorry I feel this way. I don’t even understand myself. Could you please, just help me out?”

It would be so perfect if I said I felt soooo much better after that prayer, but that would be a lie. I felt even worse. I felt like my prayer didn’t even make it past the ceiling. It was as if I was digging myself deeper in this little depressed ditch. Eventually, I drew some strength and went for family altar. We are on the book of John, and we read how Lazarus was sick, but Jesus didn’t show up till he died. Then, when he did show up, he wept. Then I remembered something – when I was very young, we were told to memorise verses at Sunday School so we could recite them in church, and the first verse I memorised was John 11 verse 35: Jesus wept. It was one of those verses I never really understood but also didn’t put much thought into. But in this moment, when my strength was gone, and I was feeling horrible about everything, I stopped and thought, “wait a minute, the Son of God wept?? He actually had emotions?”

Dear friend, you may find yourself in a similar position, when your spirits are low, life seems dull, things are not going the way you would like them to, friends have neglected you, everyone seems to have their life moving, except you. I get the feeling. You are not alone; and please please, your feelings are valid. Don’t feel guilty. Just remember these two very important words: “Jesus wept”. May it be a reminder that God himself came to walk upon the earth, and he felt what you feel. He knows exactly how it feels to be low. He knows what loss feels like, heart break, pain… and he understands when you don’t even have the right words to say. He is there and he will hear you.

It brought so much joy in my heart to know that after he wept, he had the power to turn the whole situation around and command, “LAZARUS, COME FORTH!” and he performed a mind blowing miracle. Doesn’t that cheer you up? That you have a friend that can hear your heart and also have power to turn things around? That surely got me out of the little pit I felt like I was stuck in.

 

I hope this quotation can be an encouragement to you:

-You can never exhaust God’s love and mercy to you. You say, “Well, I hate to bother You so much, Father.”

He wants to be bothered that way. He does. Don’t never think that you could ever ask too much of God. I believe the Scripture said, “You have not, because you ask not. And you ask not, because you believe not.”

He wants us to ask and believe that our joys would be full. He wants you to ask abundantly. Ask for big things; don’t limit your faith to some little mustard seed. Get on out here to some other kind of faith, and move out in big things. Ask… Big things is just as easy to receive as little things. You just have to believe; that’s all. And you got faith, just know exactly how to use it, and it’ll be all right. You can put it right to work and it’ll just be fine. Could you imagine, talking about exhausting God’s love, and power, and beneficiaries for you. Could you imagine a little bitty fish, about that long, way out here in the middle of the ocean say, “Now, wait a minute. I better consider this thing. I better drink of this water sparingly, ’cause I might run out someday.” A little fish, about that big, in the middle of this ocean out here…

Well, that could easily be done, more easier than you could ask too much of God. He’s the inexhaustible Fountain of Life. Whatever you have need of, ask Him and believe it. He provided it in the redemptive blessings when He died at Calvary and gave a promise to you for everything you have need of while you’re in the journey. And it’s yours, if you’ll ask and believe it. That’s right. 

Could you imagine a little mouse, about so long, under the great garners of Egypt, saying, “Now, wait a minute. I better not eat but just about two grains a day, ’cause I might run out ’fore the winter’s over.”

    55-1111 – Where I Think Pentecost Failed
    Rev. William Marrion Branham

Chiffon Blouses and Black

Yay to my second post on modest style dressing! This was my first time outside after about two weeks, so I was very excited, though I only managed to put this outfit together last minute.

 

Blouse: Thrifted at Bwandilo in Lilongwe

 

Skirt: Tailor-made.

I bought the material at Fabric Centre in Limbe. The shop stocks a whole lot of beautiful material and there’s a shop assistant in there that really knows his stuff and gives great advice.

I originally wanted this to be a long skater skirt, but I found out the material I bought wasn’t enough, so the tailor settled for this (which was ok, I grew to love it).

Shoes: Some shop at the Karim Ayub Mart at Ginnery corner in Blantyre (I can’t believe I forgot the name of the shop).

So many great shoes in these shops. If you’re a flat shoes lover like me, totally check these shops. They are usually on sale too.

Bag: Gift from my sister Honest 😛

If you haven’t noticed, I looove wearing black. I usually just add a bit of colour so I don’t look like death lol, like the pink blouse in this case. Black is easy to ‘match’ and makes life so much easier. 

 

I think that’s enough talk. Till next time I’m dragged out of bed into the outside world, take care 🙂 x

P/S: You can check my post on thrift shopping here.